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Minkis March 25th, 2008 01:47 PM

A Man is Pregnant
 
http://www.advocate.com/issue_story_ektid52664.asp
Quote:

Labor of Love
Is society ready for this pregnant husband?
By Thomas Beatie
From The Advocate April 8, 2008

To our neighbors, my wife, Nancy, and I don’t appear in the least unusual. To those in the quiet Oregon community where we live, we are viewed just as we are -- a happy couple deeply in love. Our desire to work hard, buy our first home, and start a family was nothing out of the ordinary. That is, until we decided that I would carry our child.


I am transgender, legally male, and legally married to Nancy. Unlike those in same-sex marriages, domestic partnerships, or civil unions, Nancy and I are afforded the more than 1,100 federal rights of marriage. Sterilization is not a requirement for sex reassignment, so I decided to have chest reconstruction and testosterone therapy but kept my reproductive rights. Wanting to have a biological child is neither a male nor female desire, but a human desire.

Ten years ago, when Nancy and I became a couple, the idea of us having a child was more dream than plan. I always wanted to have children. However, due to severe endometriosis 20 years ago, Nancy had to undergo a hysterectomy and is unable to carry a child. But after the success of our custom screen-printing business and a move from Hawaii to the Pacific Northwest two years ago, the timing finally seemed right. I stopped taking my bimonthly testosterone injections. It had been roughly eight years since I had my last menstrual cycle, so this wasn’t a decision that I took lightly. My body regulated itself after about four months, and I didn’t have to take any exogenous estrogen, progesterone, or fertility drugs to aid my pregnancy.

Our situation sparks legal, political, and social unknowns. We have only begun experiencing opposition from people who are upset by our situation. Doctors have discriminated against us, turning us away due to their religious beliefs. Health care professionals have refused to call me by a male pronoun or recognize Nancy as my wife. Receptionists have laughed at us. Friends and family have been unsupportive; most of Nancy’s family doesn’t even know I’m transgender.

This whole process, from trying to get pregnant to being pregnant, has been a challenge for us. The first doctor we approached was a reproductive endocrinologist. He was shocked by our situation and told me to shave my facial hair. After a $300 consultation, he reluctantly performed my initial checkups. He then required us to see the clinic’s psychologist to see if we were fit to bring a child into this world and consulted with the ethics board of his hospital. A few months and a couple thousand dollars later, he told us that he would no longer treat us, saying he and his staff felt uncomfortable working with “someone like me.”

In total, nine different doctors have been involved. This is why it took over one year to get access to a cryogenic sperm bank to purchase anonymous donor vials, and why Nancy and I eventually resorted to home insemination.

When I finally got pregnant for the first time, I ended up having an ectopic pregnancy with triplets. It was a life-threatening event that required surgical intervention, resulting in the loss of all embryos and my right fallopian tube. When my brother found out about my loss, he said, “It’s a good thing that happened. Who knows what kind of monster it would have been.”

On successfully getting pregnant a second time, we are proud to announce that this pregnancy is free of complications and our baby girl has a clean bill of health. We are happily awaiting her birth, with an estimated due date of July 3, 2008.

How does it feel to be a pregnant man? Incredible. Despite the fact that my belly is growing with a new life inside me, I am stable and confident being the man that I am. In a technical sense I see myself as my own surrogate, though my gender identity as male is constant. To Nancy, I am her husband carrying our child—I am so lucky to have such a loving, supportive wife. I will be my daughter’s father, and Nancy will be her mother. We will be a family.

Outside the local medical community, people don’t know I’m five months’ pregnant. But our situation ultimately will ask everyone to embrace the gamut of human possibility and to define for themselves what is normal.
Thoughts?

No Typical Raver March 25th, 2008 01:49 PM

this is what happens when minkis googles "pregnant tranny"

Berzerk March 25th, 2008 02:09 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by No Typical Raver
this is what happens when minkis googles "pregnant tranny"



ROFL!

Berzerk March 25th, 2008 02:17 PM

I just noticed this article is dated April 8th, 2008.


uhhhh it's still March...

Minkis March 25th, 2008 07:02 PM

hmmm..good point

and someone posted it on another site im on.. im gonna bring that up

fallenangelslove March 26th, 2008 01:14 PM

I have heard about this. The date is now making me wonder if it's true. Either way though good for him or her....whateve...the absolute wonder of bringing life into this world is not for me to judge. :)

Minkis March 26th, 2008 06:57 PM

apparently, the printed version doesnt come out till april, hence the date...iunno

happy1 March 26th, 2008 07:16 PM

this was proven to be a hoax. it was on cnn or yahoo or something, dont remember where i saw it.

Berzerk March 26th, 2008 08:21 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by happy1
this was proven to be a hoax. it was on cnn or yahoo or something, dont remember where i saw it.


U sure its not that Asian guy that was proven to be B.S.? Mr. Lee Mingwei.

fallenangelslove March 28th, 2008 01:19 PM

so anyone know yet...there is a site to check stuff like this but I'm not sure what it is...I think Mrs. Skittles knows...Nessa?

No Typical Raver March 28th, 2008 03:33 PM

its snopes but i'm too lazy

Berzerk March 28th, 2008 03:39 PM

Snopes only has info on that asian guy that claimed he was preggo a couple years ago.


Nothing on this.

fallenangelslove March 29th, 2008 10:48 AM

give it a week it's relatively new

heatheraloo April 1st, 2008 02:57 PM

I'm just curious as to when humans start getting preggy with animal fetuses. --is that how you spell the plural word for fetus? ahh... gotta love the politics and media thread.

Weaver April 1st, 2008 05:42 PM

^I don't think we have the same number of chromosomes as any animals.

heatheraloo April 2nd, 2008 02:01 AM

There's a will there's a way

weava April 2nd, 2008 03:01 AM

Wouldn't it be feti technically?

piercedsparkles April 3rd, 2008 05:47 PM

its real.
its on oprah right now.

Berzerk April 3rd, 2008 07:27 PM

Quote:
Originally Posted by piercedsparkles
its real.
its on oprah right now.


Yah I saw the commercial preview for it already.


I just dont understand why people don't think it's possible for a woman to have a child...

She/He is a WOMAN... with ovaries and a uterus...

this isn't rocket science :)

Berzerk April 3rd, 2008 11:58 PM

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6XyJlWQnMTU

weava April 4th, 2008 01:34 AM

I don't understand how someone can want to be a man and want to be pregnant... and end up half of the first and all of the latter.

No Typical Raver April 4th, 2008 04:08 AM

ITS NOT A MAN ITS A WOMAN.


and its not even a real person anyways.

weava April 4th, 2008 11:11 AM

Quote:
Originally Posted by weava
I don't understand how someone can want to be a man and want to be pregnant... and end up half of the first and all of the latter.


I know it's a woman.

Weaver April 4th, 2008 02:59 PM

Maybe it's a wizard.

No Typical Raver April 4th, 2008 03:09 PM

its definitely NOT a wizard


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