The HullaBoard - A Man is Pregnant

March 25th, 2008, 01:47 PM

Minkis

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A Man is Pregnant

http://www.advocate.com/issue_story_ektid52664.asp

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Labor of Love
Is society ready for this pregnant husband?
By Thomas Beatie
From The Advocate April 8, 2008

To our neighbors, my wife, Nancy, and I don’t appear in the least unusual. To those in the quiet Oregon community where we live, we are viewed just as we are -- a happy couple deeply in love. Our desire to work hard, buy our first home, and start a family was nothing out of the ordinary. That is, until we decided that I would carry our child.

I am transgender, legally male, and legally married to Nancy. Unlike those in same-sex marriages, domestic partnerships, or civil unions, Nancy and I are afforded the more than 1,100 federal rights of marriage. Sterilization is not a requirement for sex reassignment, so I decided to have chest reconstruction and testosterone therapy but kept my reproductive rights. Wanting to have a biological child is neither a male nor female desire, but a human desire.

Ten years ago, when Nancy and I became a couple, the idea of us having a child was more dream than plan. I always wanted to have children. However, due to severe endometriosis 20 years ago, Nancy had to undergo a hysterectomy and is unable to carry a child. But after the success of our custom screen-printing business and a move from Hawaii to the Pacific Northwest two years ago, the timing finally seemed right. I stopped taking my bimonthly testosterone injections. It had been roughly eight years since I had my last menstrual cycle, so this wasn’t a decision that I took lightly. My body regulated itself after about four months, and I didn’t have to take any exogenous estrogen, progesterone, or fertility drugs to aid my pregnancy.

Our situation sparks legal, political, and social unknowns. We have only begun experiencing opposition from people who are upset by our situation. Doctors have discriminated against us, turning us away due to their religious beliefs. Health care professionals have refused to call me by a male pronoun or recognize Nancy as my wife. Receptionists have laughed at us. Friends and family have been unsupportive; most of Nancy’s family doesn’t even know I’m transgender.

This whole process, from trying to get pregnant to being pregnant, has been a challenge for us. The first doctor we approached was a reproductive endocrinologist. He was shocked by our situation and told me to shave my facial hair. After a $300 consultation, he reluctantly performed my initial checkups. He then required us to see the clinic’s psychologist to see if we were fit to bring a child into this world and consulted with the ethics board of his hospital. A few months and a couple thousand dollars later, he told us that he would no longer treat us, saying he and his staff felt uncomfortable working with “someone like me.”

In total, nine different doctors have been involved. This is why it took over one year to get access to a cryogenic sperm bank to purchase anonymous donor vials, and why Nancy and I eventually resorted to home insemination.

When I finally got pregnant for the first time, I ended up having an ectopic pregnancy with triplets. It was a life-threatening event that required surgical intervention, resulting in the loss of all embryos and my right fallopian tube. When my brother found out about my loss, he said, “It’s a good thing that happened. Who knows what kind of monster it would have been.”

On successfully getting pregnant a second time, we are proud to announce that this pregnancy is free of complications and our baby girl has a clean bill of health. We are happily awaiting her birth, with an estimated due date of July 3, 2008.

How does it feel to be a pregnant man? Incredible. Despite the fact that my belly is growing with a new life inside me, I am stable and confident being the man that I am. In a technical sense I see myself as my own surrogate, though my gender identity as male is constant. To Nancy, I am her husband carrying our child—I am so lucky to have such a loving, supportive wife. I will be my daughter’s father, and Nancy will be her mother. We will be a family.

Outside the local medical community, people don’t know I’m five months’ pregnant. But our situation ultimately will ask everyone to embrace the gamut of human possibility and to define for themselves what is normal.

Thoughts?

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March 25th, 2008, 01:49 PM

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this is what happens when minkis googles "pregnant tranny"

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March 25th, 2008, 02:09 PM

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Originally Posted by No Typical Raver

this is what happens when minkis googles "pregnant tranny"

ROFL!

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March 25th, 2008, 02:17 PM	#4
Berzerk Hullaboarder Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Phoenix, AZ	I just noticed this article is dated April 8th, 2008. uhhhh it's still March...

March 25th, 2008, 07:02 PM	#5
Minkis Hullaboarder Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Fort Bragg, Nawcarolina Photos: 1	hmmm..good point and someone posted it on another site im on.. im gonna bring that up

March 26th, 2008, 01:14 PM

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I have heard about this. The date is now making me wonder if it's true. Either way though good for him or her....whateve...the absolute wonder of bringing life into this world is not for me to judge.

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March 26th, 2008, 06:57 PM	#7
Minkis Hullaboarder Join Date: Sep 2004 Location: Fort Bragg, Nawcarolina Photos: 1	apparently, the printed version doesnt come out till april, hence the date...iunno

March 26th, 2008, 07:16 PM	#8
happy1 Hullaboarder Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: anywhere	this was proven to be a hoax. it was on cnn or yahoo or something, dont remember where i saw it. __________________ ITS ABOUT TO GO OFF WHEN THAT 303 HITS!

March 26th, 2008, 08:21 PM

Berzerk

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Originally Posted by happy1

this was proven to be a hoax. it was on cnn or yahoo or something, dont remember where i saw it.

U sure its not that Asian guy that was proven to be B.S.? Mr. Lee Mingwei.

March 28th, 2008, 01:19 PM	#10
fallenangelslove Friendship Crew Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Salamanca, NY	so anyone know yet...there is a site to check stuff like this but I'm not sure what it is...I think Mrs. Skittles knows...Nessa?

March 28th, 2008, 03:33 PM	#11
No Typical Raver Friendship Crew Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: New Rotterdam, Ohio Photos: 24 Journal Entries: 1	its snopes but i'm too lazy

March 28th, 2008, 03:39 PM	#12
Berzerk Hullaboarder Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Phoenix, AZ	Snopes only has info on that asian guy that claimed he was preggo a couple years ago. Nothing on this.

March 29th, 2008, 10:48 AM	#13
fallenangelslove Friendship Crew Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: Salamanca, NY	give it a week it's relatively new

April 1st, 2008, 02:57 PM	#14
heatheraloo Hullaboarder Join Date: May 2005 Location: West Michigan	I'm just curious as to when humans start getting preggy with animal fetuses. --is that how you spell the plural word for fetus? ahh... gotta love the politics and media thread. __________________ ~CaFfEiNe KiLlS~ PLUR makes my privates tingle

April 1st, 2008, 05:42 PM	#15
Weaver Hullaboarder Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Waterloo, Ontario. Photos: 11 Journal Entries: 4	^I don't think we have the same number of chromosomes as any animals. __________________ The cake is a lie.

April 2nd, 2008, 02:01 AM	#16
heatheraloo Hullaboarder Join Date: May 2005 Location: West Michigan	There's a will there's a way

April 2nd, 2008, 03:01 AM	#17
weava Friendship Crew Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Pittsburgh, Pa Journal Entries: 2	Wouldn't it be feti technically? __________________ PLUKE

April 3rd, 2008, 05:47 PM	#18
piercedsparkles Hullaboarder Join Date: Apr 2002 Photos: 6 Journal Entries: 1	its real. its on oprah right now. __________________ Here are your messages: You have 30 minutes to move your car. You have 10 minutes. Your car has been impounded. Your car has been crushed into a cube. You have 30 minutes to move your cube.

April 3rd, 2008, 07:27 PM

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Berzerk

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Originally Posted by piercedsparkles

its real.
its on oprah right now.

Yah I saw the commercial preview for it already.

I just dont understand why people don't think it's possible for a woman to have a child...

She/He is a WOMAN... with ovaries and a uterus...

this isn't rocket science

April 3rd, 2008, 11:58 PM	#20
Berzerk Hullaboarder Join Date: Jun 2004 Location: Phoenix, AZ	http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6XyJlWQnMTU

April 4th, 2008, 01:34 AM	#21
weava Friendship Crew Join Date: Oct 2003 Location: Pittsburgh, Pa Journal Entries: 2	I don't understand how someone can want to be a man and want to be pregnant... and end up half of the first and all of the latter.

April 4th, 2008, 04:08 AM	#22
No Typical Raver Friendship Crew Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: New Rotterdam, Ohio Photos: 24 Journal Entries: 1	ITS NOT A MAN ITS A WOMAN. and its not even a real person anyways.

April 4th, 2008, 11:11 AM

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Originally Posted by weava

I don't understand how someone can want to be a man and want to be pregnant... and end up half of the first and all of the latter.

I know it's a woman.

April 4th, 2008, 02:59 PM	#24
Weaver Hullaboarder Join Date: Nov 2003 Location: Waterloo, Ontario. Photos: 11 Journal Entries: 4	Maybe it's a wizard.

April 4th, 2008, 03:09 PM	#25
No Typical Raver Friendship Crew Join Date: Apr 2005 Location: New Rotterdam, Ohio Photos: 24 Journal Entries: 1	its definitely NOT a wizard

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